We Are What We Consume
Not just food.
Everything.
What we read.
What we scroll.
What we argue about.
What we rehearse in our thoughts.
What we let live in our nervous system.
We become what we repeatedly consume.
A few months ago, I deleted the Facebook app off my phone.
It was one of the best decisions I’ve made for my mental and spiritual health.
But here’s the honest part — I still found myself typing “facebook.com” into my browser. That’s how strong the pull is. The scroll. The post button. The subtle hit of validation or outrage.
It’s addictive.
And what I realized wasn’t even political — it was energetic.
There is so much negativity being passed around as “awareness.”
So much reactivity disguised as “kindness.”
So much preaching about empathy… without actually listening to people who think differently.
The truth is: we have no idea what anyone is going through.
And when we reduce people to a party, a headline, or a belief system, we lose the humanity in the room.
Kindness isn’t posting a meme.
Kindness is being willing to sit in discomfort and still choose respect.
For me, the shift wasn’t about proving a point.
It was about protecting my peace.
I don’t need an excuse to step away from something that disrupts my spirit.
So instead of scrolling, I started walking.
Instead of reacting, I started reading.
Instead of posting impulsively, I started writing intentionally.
I walk on my walking pad almost daily now. I connect with my kids. I read books. I journal. I pray. I build my business. I focus on what actually strengthens my body, my mind, and my home.
And something changed.
My energy softened.
My focus sharpened.
My conversations deepened.
Here’s the thing — I still share my blog posts on Facebook.
That’s where I built community. That’s where many of you are.
But I post… and I leave.
I don’t go back to count likes.
I don’t scroll to see who agreed or disagreed.
I don’t measure the value of what I wrote by engagement.
If someone resonates, they reach out.
And they do.
Through Messenger.
Through the TM Fitness page.
Through real conversations that feel human and grounded.
I still use Messenger because connection matters to me. Community matters to me. But I’m choosing to be intentional about how I show up — and what I allow to shape my energy.
This isn’t about being anti-social media.
It’s about being pro-intention.
It ties directly into nutrition and fitness.
Your body doesn’t change overnight.
Neither does your mindset.
Neither does your spirit.
You don’t build muscle by consuming junk.
You don’t build peace by consuming chaos.
If we’re careful about what we eat, why wouldn’t we be careful about what we feed our minds?
We teach our kids foundations.
Truth. Integrity. Faith. Discernment.
Not outrage. Not comparison. Not performative empathy.
And here’s something I’ve learned: preaching about being kind while dismissing or gaslighting people who think differently isn’t kindness. It’s ego.
Real strength is calm.
Real confidence doesn’t need to win the argument.
Real growth takes time.
Nobody is perfect.
We are all learning.
But we are responsible for what we repeatedly consume.
Deleting the app was step one.
Redirecting the habit was step two.
Moving my body daily has been a game changer — movement regulates the nervous system, releases endorphins, and clears mental fog.
It’s hard to spiral when you’re moving forward.
You don’t need a dramatic reason to step back from something.
Peace is reason enough.
Protect your inputs.
Protect your energy.
Protect your children’s foundation.
Because we are what we consume.
Body. Mind. Spirit.
And small, consistent shifts compound over time.
Always.
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