I had a major learning lesson a couple weeks ago and I debated posted this blog post but then decided, heck yeah I’m posting it. We got our vehicle cleaned and Makenzie’s carseat was left in there because we have extras. When I got her in her car seat before we went to school I “assumed” her car seat was buckled in as it was in the same spot where she always sits. I buckled her up and got in the front seat to leave but then I’m like “No, Melodie, don’t just assume that car seat is buckled in.” I went back to the back seat and sure enough..it was not buckled back up, why would I assume that someone who cleans vehicles should know how to buckle my kids car seat in? I should not assume.
Assumptions definition: a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof. You should never assume anything in life. I’ve been told by various people on my postpartum journey…”well, it’s easy for you to get and stay in shape because you’re married to a trainer and it’s what you guys do” That’s a huge assumption, I work my butt off and make sacrifices for the way I want to look and in return it makes me feel really good. And that’s what it’s all about, that full circle. And at the end of the day, it’s my choice. Or another one, “you don’t know what it’s like to have a lot of weight to lose, you don’t understand.” Assumption because I’ve gained 35-40 pounds with each pregnancy and guess what?? It didn’t magically come off, I had to work to get it off both mentally and physically. If you’re going through hard times or you think you don’t have the time to workout, let me tell you, that’s a choice, choose whether you want to live longer, look and feel better but don’t blame it on others because of you not following through to ensure your success and also don’t assume that your journey is more tough than others, we all have our hardships, our struggles and things that we can’t control but I’m here to tell you, if you take an hour, 45 minutes, 30 minutes or even 15 minutes to move and put exercise in your life for at least 3-4 days a week, you will see a difference in not only your body but so much in your mind(what matters most) because of those endorphins. If you make a CHOICE to put a healthy greens shake with protein in your system instead of candy or sweets, that’s your CHOICE and I promise you, if you keep doing it, you’ll see changes. Commit to a better you. Own YOUR journey, not anyone else’s because life is tough and if you’re worried about what others think or are doing, you’re taking time away from your journey. That’s been a battle of mine, worrying about what other people think and now after three kids and owning my journey and doing what’s best for me, I don’t care what the negative people’s perception of me is. No one has time for that! My grandma used to say, “if you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.” choose to find the positive in every day.
I think we all need to strive to make better choices. Is there a time and a place for things you love? Yes, I think so because I enjoy them from time to time. I think sometimes we make so many excuses for ourselves because it’s easier to choose not to workout or prep food. I’m all about helping others, but if I guide you, you need to do your part and follow through to see the results. That’s just a fact.
I recently started helping someone with their nutrition and we implemented short 20-30 minute workouts in as well. I check in, she asks questions. She’s following my guidance and seeing results. That’s how it works! And the workouts are what she’s falling in love with because of the way she feels after.
As always, if you need anything, reach out. I really enjoy helping others live a more balanced, healthy life without sacrificing everything! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, “balance is beautiful!”
Also, last week was one of those weeks where I feel like I couldn’t keep up with the girls attitudes or dinner options, where nothing sounded good. We all get stumped and have weeks that aren’t as good as others, but, that’s what the balance of life is all about. Here’s to a new week, shopping done for food this week, time to conquer it!
As always, thanks for reading!
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